Self-Respect: Your body image

Last week, in the morning before hopping into the shower, I caught myself looking in the mirror, and thinking a lot of negative things.
I was complaining about all the things I don't like about my body.

"Yikes! I look jiggly, I can see some cellulite, I'm breaking out, I look pale..."

When I stopped and listened to what my thoughts were, I realized that I had to stop the negative self talk. I have been unconsciously doing this for several months!
I see it often with my clients too. Many will cry about their appearance! But when I go meet them in person, all I see is beauty!! I wish that I could show them what I see.

We are constantly bringing ourselves down.
Many of us keep noticing "what's wrong" with us.

We need to stop that, and start think about all the things we love about ourselves.
I starting listing all the things I love about myself, and I instantly felt better! (Good way to start the day)

We need to give ourselves some self-respect. (It is always there, you just have to access it)
Start loving yourself.
You are f*cking awesome! There is not one individual in this universe that is the same as you.

Help your family and friends feel the same. Catch them when they are talking negatively.
They may not even notice how negative they are, but bring attention to it. And then tell them what you like about them!!



What also has been on my mind: (For the single people out there)
I have talked to a lot of my single male friends. They think that need a super hot muscular body in order to get girls.
NO!
Not at all.
Sure... You might get some hot little chicks... But if they are choosing a man based on your body... You don't want them. (You know why)
You want a woman that loves and appreciates YOU (not talking about your looks).

What a girl is actually looking for, is a man who can take care of himself. If he can take care of himself, that probably means he can take care of a family. :)

So focus on you. Put yourself as #1.

Thank you for reading this! :D
Love,
Ying

What does "healthy" look like?

Media showcases a lot of beautiful, lean, skinny, or fit people. They keep telling us what we should look like. How lean we have to be, how pretty we have to be, how cool we have to be, etc... We start thinking that there is something wrong with us.
So we start buying all these products and programs they advertise to us!
And they make a TON of money!!
They will keep selling us products that won't work. They are usually quick fixes... Then people gain back the fat... Even more fat than before... Then they go back and buy the same quick fix...

I have been thinking about this lots... I feel guilty for being part of the media (being on magazines and the internet). It has been bothering me a lot, but I think it is time for me to let out my feelings. Also, I am comfortable showing you... the other side of me! (My "offseason")

The pictures I post online, are photos taken of me when I am close to a bikini competition. That requires a lot of dedication and hard work. Diet and training.
I don't look like that all the time!
And I don't think it would be healthy if I did... I stopped menstruating for a very long period of time! (And fertility=health).
There are people out there that are just naturally very lean! But you know, everybody has a different body!!

I eat very healthy and I exercise regularly. I am very cautious of what I put into my body... But that doesn't mean I'm going to have washboard abs all the time. I am going to reveal to you a picture of me... when I'm not dieting and ready for competition.
I realize that I may get a lot of... criticism for this?
Maybe even be called names... Just last week I saw someone post something about me calling me "fat".
I don't think I'm fat.
I think I'm beautiful in my own way! As long as I take care of my body, and I am proud of it, then nobody can bring me down.
And I want you to be the same :) Eat healthy, exercise in a way that you like, and be proud of it!!!

You’re not your jeans, car, credit profile or Facebook status

I have taken a break from the computer and blogging... (Feels so good!)


I've been thinking, and maybe all that I know... Is wrong.

I've realized that we are living an illusion.

I used to  wake up at 5 am every morning, worked my ass off, and wasted zero time so that I could become successful.

I built up this dream... That I would have a big house, a fancy car, the best clothes... The best everything... Just Tons of money. Filthy rich. And tons of fans.
But why would I want that?
Would all of these material things define who I am?
Because it would make me better than you? So that everyone would be jealous of me? So that I would be "happy"? ... (My thoughts disgust me sometimes, but really... be honest!) Damn Ego.

Now I'm thinking. None of that is going to make me happy. That's just going to make me miserable. I'll have to work my ass off for the rest of my life to maintain that. And I will have to maintain that image or else people will think less of me. (Of course, it will bring me temporary happiness. But who wants something temporarily?)

But... No one really cares. No one really cares what you look like, what you have, what you do...

And then look at this:

Imagine working so hard for your fancy house and cars and sh*t. Then mother nature can take it all away in an instant. Then what? What do you have? And who are you?
And what if all this time you pushed away family and friends to get this. Who do you have?

And if you think all of these material things will make you happy...
Maybe re-evaluate.
Happiness comes within. If you aren't satisfied with what you have now... You will never be satisfied.
We have to learn to appreciate.
We are miracles!
I'm alive today, I'm breathing, I'm using all of my 5 senses!
Isn't that beautiful? Shouldn't I be happy about that?



And what if time is an illusion too?
Why am I in such a hurry?
I've been in such a hurry to get things done... No time to waste because I gotta become "successful".
I had no time for friends, I had no time to relax.

It seems that we need to have appointments to see each other, because we don't have time to talk if we just run into each other.
The only time we have is, "Now".
I actually have a lot more fun at work when I don't wear a watch, and I enjoy the gym if I don't have a time limit.


There is so much more going on in my mind, but here is a really good blog post by a friend, take the time to enlighten yourself: Click here

Namaste
Ying